Porn again. And again. And again…
Lots of us view lots of porn. Christians included. Ones you know. They will probably never tell you, and you won‘t know which ones. The vast majority feel bad about it. Most wish they didn’t. Some are dealing with it. Some will deal with it tomorrow. And tomorrow. And tomorrow. Are you one? We all have issues that block the light we want to be in the world. This is a big one.
This issue matters. For lots of reasons. It is not simply harmless fun among consenting adults; there’s a more sinister underworld going on. It’s a billion pound industry intricately tied up with people trafficking, drugs, slavery, paedophilia and violence. People grow up thinking that other humans are simply for sex, for looking at, using, abusing and throwing away; or if not just for that, that real sexual encounters should resemble the encounters seen in magazines, in films, on the internet. Whether these are idealistically perfect or downright bizarre, this places huge pressure on real relationships. After all, what images of sex do you have in your head, and where are they from?
Some argue that the people involved are consenting. The vast majority are not. Even if they all were, would that make it right? Are human beings not worth massively, wonderfully more than what we can do with our bodies? Are human beings not precious and beautiful regardless of our ability to pose in front of a camera pretending we are having fun for a desperate and lonely remote viewer? When the bright lights and cameras are off, what of those women then? And those behind the camera, holding the sound cables… what of them?
Let’s be careful. Let’s not slag them off, call them names, separate ourselves with a wall of self-righteous indignation; let’s not simply be cruel to cover our shame, or outrage, or fear of people who are different. But let’s act.
We must talk about this. With our teenagers, yes. With our adults, yes. It must not be ignored and swept under the carpet because it is awkward or embarrassing or uncomfortable or not the sort of thing to talk about in church. Jesus said that even if we look at someone else lustfully we have committed adultery. That’s pretty strong, and pretty relevant. It affects what newspapers we buy, magazines we read, films we watch and TV programmes we view. If affects how we react to our friends and colleagues.
There are many motivations for acting against porn – preventing the images filling our minds, degrading us and the women we see; stopping the horrendous trade in people that sees many women, men and children trafficked into sex slavery and prostitution; and us being the salt and light of hope in a murky world of lust, fear and hopelessness. We are about light, not darkness.
Those of us who know the blindingly bright love of Jesus that exposes fully all of our indecencies and sordidness and forgives and loves and transforms and changes, don’t we want to just leave all that stuff behind? And don’t we want everyone to be free as well? Don’t we…?
Jesus loves porn stars. Jesus loves those who keep porn stars in business. Maybe that’s you. But Jesus does not love porn, and nor should we; and neither should we be a slave to it, as so many are, as we do not need to be enslaved to any addiction or temptation. And we also mustn’t simply turn a blind eye. May we make a difference. May we be different. May we not be porn-again Christians, but may we shine with light and glow with the Spirit and bring peace to the world’s rough edges. May we be gracious and compassionate, may we be pure and blameless. May we be filled with the Holy Spirit, real living temples of worship to God. May we be free. Amen.
Some figures
You don’t have to try very hard to find porn. A few clicks on the mouse, some late night channel surfing, and you’ve got some explicit footage at your fingertips, on your phone, to watch where you like. 12% of all websites are porn; 8% of all emails are porn; 25% of all web searches are for porn; 20% of men admit to accessing porn at work; and 47% of Christians say it is a problem at home (source: XXXChurch).
Action you can take NOW
I have installed a free piece of accountability software called X3Watch on my computer. It emails 2 friends if any ‘suspect’ sites are viewed. This post will probably set off an email because of its content. Vicars are particularly prone to laptop temptations. 4 in 10 pastors looked at porn today. Yes. that many. So install X3Watch now, even before you ‘need’ to. Click on it NOW! There’s nothing quite like your wife finding out to stop you doing it! If it affects you directly, you need to have a difficult conversation with someone, to make yourself accountable. I’ve done it; you can too. And if someone else has that conversation with you – be gracious.
Go to XXX Church for more information and to see their work within the porn industry in Las Vegas.. Get your church to take part in Porn Sunday. For more information on human trafficking and how you can get involved in stopping it, go to Stop the Traffik. Read The Girl Who Played With Fire for a novelists take on the sex industry. Ask your vicar or pastor to preach on it; get your youth worker to do a session about it. Watch them squirm. It’s important.
What are you thinking?